hey tudor…

loves a bitch.. it always hurts the most when you dont want it to.. i know the pain you’re feeling and the only thing i can say is that it will get better with time..

but the one thing i can really reccoment is to NOT become an alcholic. dude it will only make things worse not better.. believe me.. drowning sorrows only works for soo long cause they will always come back full force in the morning.

Mike.

PS. email me if you need to talk.. i can bistow on you advice from someone whose been there many many times. with many different women.

I’m sorry to hear that you’re having troubles with Martha…your writing and your relationship with her has been an inspiration; full of tenderness and cheese, beauty and sincerity. It has made me smile countless times.

I originally came on your page looking for news of an old friend that I lost; but I read your stories and I have since been a frequent visitor. I don’t usually comment, but I read this post and just felt like adding my piece. Don’t lose hope…the torment of love is very human, very natural; don’t drown it. Love holds pain, but love holds joy as well: the pain only makes the joy more sweet. I hope that you find sweetness again soon.

Forgive the ‘cliched words’, but I just thought I’d like to try my hand at offering some hope to one who’s inspired me in a small way.

Peace

Hey Tudor,

It’s never a good time to become an alcoholic :) Besides, I don’t think that’s something you can consciously choose to become anyway.

If you are ever in Toronto we should get together and talk! I hope you feel better soon. Email me sometime.
Take care!
PS. I love your photos!

For Tudor, and good luck.

1. Wash hands and apply gloves.
2. Provide privacy by closing curtains aroiund bed or closing door.
3. Raise bed to appropriate working height for nurse; raise side rail on opposite side.
4. Assist client into left side-lying (Sims’) position with right knee flexed.
*CRITICAL DECISION POINT* If client is suspected of having poor shincter control, position the client on the bedpan in comfortable dorsal recumbent position. Clients with poor spincter control cannot retain all of enema solution.
5. Place waterproof pad under hips and buttocks.
6. Cover client with bath blanket, exposing only rectal area, clearly visualizing anus.
7. Place bedpan or commode in easily accessible position. If client will be expelling contents in toilet, ensure that toilet is free. (If client will be getting up to bathroom to expel enema, place client’s bathrobe and slippers in easily accessible position.)
8. Administer enema using prepackaged disposible container.
a. Remove plastic cap from rectal tip. Tip is already lubricated, but more jelly can be applied as needed.
b. Gently separate buttocks and locate rectum. Instruct cleint to relas by breathing out slowly through mouth.
c. Insert tip of bottle gently into rectum. Adult: 7.5cm to 10 cm. Child: 5cm to 7.5cm.
d. Squeeze bottle until all of solutiojn has entered rectum and colon. (Most bottles contain approximately 250ml of solution.) Hypertonic solutions require only small volumes to stimulate defecation. Instruct client to retain solution until the urge to defecate occurs, usually 2-5 minutes.
9. Administer enema using enema bag: (available upon request, withheld due to length.)
10. Place layers of toilet tissue around tube at anus and gently withdraw rectal tube.
11. Explain to client that feeling of distention is normal. Ask client to retain solution as long as possible while lying quietly in bed. (For infants or children, gently hold buttocks together for a few minutes.)
12. Discard enema container and tubing in proper receptacle or rinse out thoroughly with warm soap and water if container is to be reused.
13. Assist cleint to bathroom or help to position client on bedpan.
14. Observe character of feces and solution (caution client against flushing toilet before inspection.)
*CRITICAL DECISION POINT* When enemas are ordered “until clear”, it is essential to observe contents of solution passed. The enema return is considered “clear” when no solid fecal material exists, but the solution may be coloured.
15. Assist client as needed to wash anal area with warm soap and water (if nurse administers perineal care, use gloves.)
16. Remove an discard gloves and wash hands.

Follow-up activities:
1. Stop enema if severe cramping, bleeding, or sudden abdominal pain occurs. Physician should be notified of any adverse effect.

You know I know how you feel. And if you don’t, please do. Remember the things that we talked about? Remember what I said and how you repsonded? I don’t know if I can be as eloquent as you are, but I’m here, I understand, and I’m willing to go yell at the rain again.

Jeez… that’s truly sucky. I sincerely hope that it works out the way you want.

Damn… now *I’m* depressed…

Now that I know the secret to enemas (thanks Meghann!) I’ll never be full of shit again. Ah, I feel (somewhat) better already — thank you all for your support:

Mike, I’ll use your advice often; widow, everything is bitter and sweet — cliches are all I’ve got; Erica, with a bit of determination I can be anything — even an alcoholic; lovely Shirley, you and I need to go shout in the rain again.

But first I got to figure out this rectal insertion thing :).

Tudor, this sucks and I hope you feel better.

But speaking with way too much experience, stay away from the enema, go for the alcohol

sra

Perhaps when she told you “you’ve lost your ‘mystery,’” she was may have been referring to your blog and your unexplainable urge to lead an open-book life. Sometimes you have to watch what you say & do about your relationships because if the other person starts thinking they can no longer trust you intimately, then all hell breaks loose. I could be completely wrong about this, but definitely take a minute to think about what I just said later on when you are not so down in the dumps.

tick you tick you
i think you should shut the fuck up, and worry about expressing yourself the way you will, and not anyone else.
no one asked for your opinion.
when you tell me your thee jesus christ they say, or even ghandolf the great, or perhaps my god of a psych prof don morgee, then i think anyone could take a minute, or even 5 to think about what u said, but untill then, go masterbate.

Wow. Sorry to hear about that. My ex broke up with me a couple days later…